The Modern Business of Love

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...Thai girls’ prime asset is their sexuality. Thai girls feel that women should be sexy in order to make a man fall in love and to keep him interested – not far from the typical relationship advice. When you are good in bed and as active as your man, it lessens the chances that he would want to be with someone else. However, Thai girls’ best techniques don’t necessarily have anything to do with how they perform between the sheets, but how they present themselves. Whether Thai girls work in a bar or in an office, they are generally come across as prudish and a little shy. They are conservatively but nicely dressed and rarely show much bare skin.

“She was beautiful and feminine,” said one Western man said about a Thai woman who sold souvenirs in a little travel shop. “She was dressed in a skirt and a blouse, and each time she bent slightly to show something to me from the display table, she instinctually grabbed the front of her blouse to make sure I couldn’t see anything from underneath. It was extremely exciting. I will never forget this girl, unlike the dozens of half-naked go-go girls I’ve seen.”

It seems the image of prudishness and shyness strengthens the male ego. Of course these Thai women aren’t necessarily prudish or shy, but they pretend they are because it makes men feel confident and experienced. Men are fascinated to teach women something new in bed. And they are even more fascinated when they can see that the woman enjoys it.

It is possible Thai girls are more comfortable with their sexuality, as in Thailand sex isn’t sin. Buddha never defined what he meant by his advice to abstain from sexual misconduct. Many have interpreted it to mean adultery, among other things, but its practice in Thailand is as loose as the interpretation itself. Sex is part of everyday life, and it doesn’t include the pressures brought on by Christianity, such as being “good” or “bad.” Perhaps Thai girls can have fun in bed without having to have a guilt trip the next morning. Marriage, too, isn’t a religious, but a civil event. Thai women protect their reputation of innocence before marriage, not because of religious rule, but because of the pride of parents and family. Finances might also play a part: a young woman who has the reputation of being inexperienced can ask for a bigger dowry.